Pattaya is located in Thailand and is 145km south of Bangkok. Pattaya used to be a small fishing village but during the Vietnam War in the 1960's the US Air force and other service men used it for R&R creating a boom. In recent years Pattaya has grown considerably in size with some half a million people living there and experienced a considerable boom in tourism. Today Pattaya gets close to 5 million visitors per year and has in excess of 300,000 people living there.
Many of the male visitors to Pattaya go there to have no strings attached fun with plans to pick up as many girls as possible. However, there are some other guys who go to find that special lady with whom they will spend their entire vacation.
They want to experience that feeling of being in a relationship while they are on their holiday and to be treated as someone special. This is actually an illusion because while the lady will treat him as if he were special and pay lots of attention to him, it is merely an act which both parties are happy to partake in for deferring reasons.
You never really know when or where you will meet that special girl, however it is recommend looking in the beer bars as opposed to the go go bars as the beer bar girls are more likely to have a better attitude in comparison to go go girls.
Now, many of the girls come to Pattaya in search of a western husband and many of the guys also come to Pattaya searching for love and therefore on many occasions, what starts as a relationship based on an illusion can quickly turn into reality with both the guy and girl forming real emotions and feelings for each other.
When this happens, typically the guy and his Pattaya girlfriend will arrange for her to stop working the bars and on his return to his home country will keep in regular touch by email and phone calls. The guy will most likely have to send money to support her while their relationship blossoms with plans to eventually bring her back to his home country to marry and settle down.
The illusion can be very powerful and sometimes one may not be certain about what is an illusion and what is real, as the line between the two is pretty thin. So thread carefully because while many become real, others remain in illusion mode and it can be difficult to tell the difference between the illusion of a girl friend experience and a real Pattaya girlfriend!
If you do end up crossing that line then try to take things slow, make sure she is someone you would really like to spend the rest of your life with. Have a plan and set goals for the both of you. Read everything you can about Thai girls and the Thai culture. Though it may be difficult, try to learn to speak Thai. All these will be of great benefit if your relationship is going to work.
There are many differences between the Western and Thai culture and without reading and learning about why things are done a certain way you may eventually drift apart due to a lack of understanding and what started as a promising relationship ends to cultural misunderstandings.
If you are secretly a romantic at heart but not looking to settle down and not looking for complications from your holiday, then it may be best in your best interest to avoid seeking that illusion of a relationship as while it can be fun and enjoyable, it is also very powerful and addictive with the potential of real emotions forming with a real Pattaya Girlfriend.
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